I feel scatterbrained today. Probably the main reason for that is that our Quarter just ended at work and everyone is hitting the reset button..takes a few days to recover from that...lol..make that a few days to a few weeks to recover. I'm emotionally spent...even changing my blog template design the other day took all my energy and as hard as I tried, I couldn't seem to form a logical blog post, so rather than just post about mindless crap, I chose to give myself a break.
I've been reading my friends' blogs the past few days though and I've come to realize that I really haven't "told my story" here. Not so that it's easy to follow anyway..and I'm frustrated. See, my goal is to one day write a book..and if I can't even write my own truths down so they make sense, how in the world will I be able to write something that will capture the readers' attention? Answer: I can't.
So, if you're all up for it...I'd like to start at the beginning again. Some of the upcoming blog posts will probably be redundant. And for that, I apologize. Just skip over the stupid parts. Just don't tell me you skipped over them...I might get a complex ::grin:: .
Where should I start? At the adoption agency? My childhood? My reunion?? Where? Help!
I'm totally open to suggestions. After all, yes, I write this blog mostly for myself..but you are all very important to me..even those of you who read my posts and just shake your heads sometimes. Hard to believe that not everyone is hanging on my every word..but I'm sure it's possible.
For now, I'm going to enjoy my glass of wine/whine and wait for some responses. Yes..I live for comments..so let me know what you are thinking. Even if it's to tell me to shut up. I can handle it. Lol..usually.
ETA: I love the title of this post..lol..I crack myself up. Shakespeare is turning over in his grave. Sorry dude.
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Thursday, February 18, 2010
Falling On Deaf Ears
I really need to avoid my Google Reader for awhile. How many times have you heard me say that? Lots, I'm sure..lol..and I'm sorry, but I'm repeating myself again. I found this little bloggy nugget of "goodness" yesterday and it touched off a commentpalooza. Read the blog and the comments and then come back. Go ahead, I'll still be here...
::humming the Jeopardy theme song::
Back? So, I'm curious to hear your thoughts. I'm throwing it out there. Am I off base for being offended by the talk of trivializing first parents? Am I off base for being offended to hear that adoption doesn't cause loss? I have to be honest, towards the end, I WAS practically begging for them to listen to the voices of the adoptees, but I know in my heart of hearts, that that is a pipe dream.
But there was a moment when I was sitting there, reading the comments of my fellow adoptees, and commenters that I didn't even know, that I felt surrounded by warmth. They are the ones who "get it". And many of the adoptive parents that read this blog "get it". I'm not a hater. I may not agree with everyone all the time, but I'm not a hater. And to read the comments on that blog saying that the potential adoptive parents should simply ignore the negative stories and anecdotes and comments just really hurt me to my core.
I retweeted some of the tweets that Noel, her husband, and one of their friends posted. Most memorable was this, posted by one of their minister friends:
"Don't know why people think they have to be heard.."
That one phrase really struck a huge nerve with me. For my entire life, I've been stifled. Been told that my opinions don't matter...been told to keep my mouth shut and just take whatever is thrown my way. Well no more. Fuck that. I'm tired of being silenced. You don't have to agree with me..but you should have the common decency to listen.
The blog author's husband ridiculed me for sharing anecdotal stories in response to his questions...but then when those that agreed with them shared stories, it was all good.
Peggy did nail it on the head though with the following quote:
"Sometimes the road to someone else's Hell is paved by your good intentions..."
So true.
::humming the Jeopardy theme song::
Back? So, I'm curious to hear your thoughts. I'm throwing it out there. Am I off base for being offended by the talk of trivializing first parents? Am I off base for being offended to hear that adoption doesn't cause loss? I have to be honest, towards the end, I WAS practically begging for them to listen to the voices of the adoptees, but I know in my heart of hearts, that that is a pipe dream.
But there was a moment when I was sitting there, reading the comments of my fellow adoptees, and commenters that I didn't even know, that I felt surrounded by warmth. They are the ones who "get it". And many of the adoptive parents that read this blog "get it". I'm not a hater. I may not agree with everyone all the time, but I'm not a hater. And to read the comments on that blog saying that the potential adoptive parents should simply ignore the negative stories and anecdotes and comments just really hurt me to my core.
I retweeted some of the tweets that Noel, her husband, and one of their friends posted. Most memorable was this, posted by one of their minister friends:
"Don't know why people think they have to be heard.."
That one phrase really struck a huge nerve with me. For my entire life, I've been stifled. Been told that my opinions don't matter...been told to keep my mouth shut and just take whatever is thrown my way. Well no more. Fuck that. I'm tired of being silenced. You don't have to agree with me..but you should have the common decency to listen.
The blog author's husband ridiculed me for sharing anecdotal stories in response to his questions...but then when those that agreed with them shared stories, it was all good.
Peggy did nail it on the head though with the following quote:
"Sometimes the road to someone else's Hell is paved by your good intentions..."
So true.
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