I'm confused by the whole "like with like" statement. Let's say the child is adopted as an infant. How exactly can you match that baby with adopters who are like him or her? I guess you can match a blonde haired, blue eyed girl with blonde haired blue eyed aparents...but what other criteria would be suitable?
In my case, I did semi-resemble my adoptive parents with my looks...but I definitely wasn't loud or mean. I went to church because they went to church, but not because I had been born wanting to go. I listened to Elvis Presley and Hooked on Classics, not because I particularly cared for them, but because that's what my amother would play on the record player every Saturday while my sister and I cleaned the house. I absolutely hate seafood, while my family loved it, and they would always bitch and moan when they had to find restaurants in Maine on our vacations that would cater to my picky eating habits.
"In fact, adoptions were generally indistinguishable from indentured servitude at best, whereby room and board was provided in return for labor for a set number of years; it has to be considered a relative improvement when adoptions became much more like apprenticeships, providing at least some training in marketable skills."
It's good that adoption became less like slavery and more like apprenticeship how exactly? Because of the "training in marketable skills"?
I was trained in how to hide my feelings.
I was trained to not speak up for myself.
I was trained how to cower in the corner.
I was trained to pretend that our family was perfect.
I was trained to expect to be yelled at at least twice a day.
I was trained how to stop myself from crying to avoid being beaten.
Great marketable skills, huh?
