We talk a lot about our personal lives but many of us also have professional lives. Let's assume that our personal and professional lives cross at some point (for some people this happens more than others). Has adoption also affected your professional life? If so, how?
Up until my reunion with my natural mom, the topic of adoption never really came up. Oh, sometimes I'd mention it if it somehow came up in conversation and would inevitably get the "Oh, that's so cool!" comments. And because I was so firmly ensconced in the fog, I'd smile and agree. After all, I was chosen..I was special!
After I was found and realized that it was okay to express my displeasure and confusion over being adopted, my tune changed..especially after I started sharing some of my reunion with my friends and coworkers at my job. After my first face to face with my mother and sister, I emailed some of the pictures to the people who asked to see them the next day at work.
Check out this picture:
|That's my sister in the pink and me in the black sweater|
So, after I sent the pictures to my coworkers, one of them emailed me. Except, she wasn't trying to email me, she was trying to send a message to one of my other friends. She said, "Is it just me, or does Christina look miserable in the pictures?".
Yeah, I think my feet didn't even hit the floor before I made it over to her cube to confront her. She backpedaled and tried to say that she was just concerned for me. That she was old school and that mothers just don't give up their children and then come back into their lives years later.
Well, you obnoxious cow, my mother did come back.
I learned quickly to only share my story with those who asked about it. Just because I knew that it was a wonderful thing, didn't mean that everyone would "get it". It was enough that I did.