Thursday, November 1, 2012

Kicking Things Off ~ NaBloPoMo ~ November 1

As I said yesterday, I'm going to fight through the writer's block I've been experiencing for a long time to blog this month...every day. By the time November's over, you're all going to be hoping for me to go trotting off on another hiatus..haha.

National Adoption Awareness Month...what's it actually for?

Against my better judgment, I turned to Google. ::thud::

I found this site.

What I find most disturbing is the picture of the smiling expectant woman next to a picture of a judge with an adoptive couple and a baby.

Seriously? To portray a woman, ready to pop from the looks of it, smiling and happy and ready to give her child to the highest bidder is just horrible. It hurts my soul.

November to me is the big ramp up to Thanksgiving. I give thanks every day for my family and friends. It would never enter my mind to give thanks for adoption. At its very core, adoption is based on loss. The loss of one's identity...the loss of one's natural parents and heritage. It's not a cause to be celebrated...unless of course, you're the adoptive parents who get the child of a happy, smiling woman.

Tomorrow I will jump into the prompts that were provided over on the Lost Daughters site.


  1. Even if you are the adoptive parents, it is not much about celebration. I love my children with every fiber of my being, but I also know they have loss, huge loss. I am trying right now to help my 8 y/o search for his first mother. I have posted a bit about the search on my blog from time to time. This is a good month to write something more thoughtful about it all.

  2. Question: Is it really adoption that you’re against? Or are you more upset that for 99% of the adoptees actually have fond and good memories and feelings toward the adoption process? I didn’t mean to diminish your point but this just sounds so much like the kid who didn’t get picked for the team and now they hate the entire sport.
    I mean I get it, you can’t rage at the specific nail that your angry at so you throw the hammer at the entire barn, this is understandable, infantile and insipid but understandable.
    Regardless, I’ll be reading.
    Happy National Adoption month.

  3. Answer: Yes. It really is adoption that I’m against. I’d really like to know where you’re getting your “99% of adoptees have fond and good memories and feelings towards the adoption process” number. And with all due respect, you’re wrong. In regards to adoption, I WAS one of the kids picked for the team and once on the team I realized that I wanted no part of it. I know it’s difficult for people who aren’t adopted to understand how it’s possible to be unhappy with adoption but I can tell you that it is possible. Take a look at some of the blogs listed on the right sidebar and you’d get a better understanding of just how many people agree with my stance.

    I am not saying that there aren’t instances where it’s necessary to place a child somewhere other than with their family of origin. Having been abused myself by my adoptive parents, I certainly would have been happier in a different family (specifically my natural family). But why does placing a child have to mean the loss of their original birth certificate and the decimation of their original family? Why not guardianship? Adoption is not necessary.

    And just to clarify, it’s not National Adoption Month. It’s National Adoption Awareness Month.

  4. Well said Christina. Some people refuse to see the issue for what it is and the fact that adopters are not saints and merely people who are just as bad and in some cases waaay worse than natural familes.

    And amen, adoption is not necessary... those who know adoption know adoption was only ever about the adults anyway. The children have only been used to get what adults want and that has been the case since ancient days until now. If the best interests and welfare of the child were ever a real consideration then adoption would have been ditched years ago.

    Yeah, November must suck for you guys... thankful we don't have it here. I think Aussie has something like it but maybe its only a week. Anyway, I see it as a great opportunity to get the truth of adoption out there and the fact it isn't about the children. All the best with blogging for the month xxx


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