Monday, November 1, 2010
NAM-arama Ding Dong: Is It December Yet?
I'll be needing a TON of eye bleach to get through the coming month. Why, you ask? What? You didn't hear??? It's the most wonderful time of year known as National Adoption Month. Beginning in September the blog posts start. I can deal with one or two showing up on my Google Reader, but then towards the end of October the onslaught of unicorns farting skittles and rainbow and sunshine-filled posts begin. And let me tell you, I get twitchy. Real twitchy.
See, if I were to rename November, it'd be called "National Ripped-From-Our-Natural-Families-Because-It-Was-Apparently-God's-Plan-For-Us Month".
Offended? Sorry. But the thing is, I don't need a month designated to thinking about adoption. I've had 36 years to do that. Every day I ponder my own existence. Every day I wonder what I did in another life to tick someone off that much to cause THIS to be my life and my burden to bear. Pissing in someone's cereal doesn't seem like it'd be a good enough reason.
I've discussed before why I don't celebrate adoption..but perhaps it bears repeating. (This list is copied and pasted from this post..)
I celebrate my childrens' birthdays.
I celebrate Christmas..Thanksgiving..Mother's Day..Father's Day (for my childrens' fathers..not my own. He sucked).
I celebrate the births of my friends' babies.
I celebrate the lives of those who have passed on.
I celebrate every pound loss in my effort to become healthy.
I celebrate each dinner date I enjoy with my boyfriend.
I celebrate the fact that I still have a job (for now).
I celebrate my Libby (Jeep Liberty) for getting me back and forth to places I want/need to go.
I celebrate the Constitution of the United States that allows me Freedom of Speech.
I celebrate each moment I spend with both of my families..adoptive and natural.
I celebrate my daughter being in her school's spelling bee.
I celebrate my son for singing Taylor Swift at the top of his lungs while wearing his big sister's "Princess" shirt.
I celebrate my boyfriend for all the trips up and down the stairs to jiggle the handle on the dishwasher when it makes funny noises.
I celebrate my God for teaching me that there is more than one way to love and honor my Creator.
I do not celebrate something that rips aparts families.
I do not celebrate something that prohibits millions of Americans and others across the globe from obtaining their original birth certificates.
I do not celebrate something that causes children to get upset in school because they have to lie on their Family Tree projects.
I do not celebrate something that changes the names on a legal document and says that Amom and ADad are the biological parents of an adoptee.
I do not celebrate something that causes such a deep rooted feeling of loss.
I do not celebrate something that sometimes causes a sense of baby entitlement in so many people.
I do not celebrate "National Adoption Month".
I do not celebrate being silenced because I disagree with the statement, "Adoption is wonderful".
I do not celebrate adoption.