Tuesday, November 23, 2010

What Is An Object?


Definition of OBJECT


1
a : something material that may be perceived by the senses
b : something that when viewed stirs a particular emotion (as pity)

2
a : something mental or physical toward which thought, feeling, or action is directed
b : something physical that is perceived by an individual and becomes an agent for psychological identification
3
a : the goal or end of an effort or activity 
b : a cause for attention or concern 


An object is NOT…

a child. A child is not something that is to be coveted. A child is not an object to be shunned just because you don’t have one.

However, according to this blogger, a child IS an object, as is pregnancy itself.

“It’s easy for the children to become a representation of all that you want, and so far, don’t have.”

So here’s the thing. Maybe I’m not so different from this blogger after all. As a child, I totally and completely coveted my friends’ parents and their lives. I wanted to be in a family that was my own. The huge difference is, I wasn’t allowed to leave the room just because I didn’t look like my adoptive relatives. I couldn’t tell my mother, “Hey, can you move me to a different table because I don’t look like the cousins?”.

9 comments:

  1. As someone who doesnt have children and is in no way ready...I can not wrap my mind around these adoptive parents and their tunnel vision! I just dont get it. It seems so obvious yet there is no way to get them to "get it" and I find myself sitting in my office trying not to scream (or be a complete bitch to everyone because I cant scream)...
    I feel at this moment that I am merely a body built of frustration and covered in a Katy suit...
    *Sigh*
    With Love,
    Katy

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  2. I'm not even sure they are trying to adopt at this point..just that they are struggling with infertility. But I agree. The sentiment that is being thrown out there is hideous regardless.

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  3. Its the desperation that is dangerous. These are the types who adopt and then completely diminish the child's losses. You know, because it was all about them. I feel bad for their families. Im sorry, but to shun family member's children because you cant have one of your own is just sick and twisted. I wouldn't let her hold my baby.

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  4. I wouldn't even let them have my dog. And I hate my dog.

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  5. The blogger isn't trying to adopt or get pregnant. If you click on "Home" - you'll see that this is actually the site for a "nonprofit providing education, resources, and support for those touched by infertility or adoption."

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  6. @Jennifer: So that makes it okay for her to refer to children as "objects"?

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  7. However, I do find her somewhat fair and balanced compared to many out there. You might want to take a look at some of her other blog posts etc.

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  8. Just wanted to say thanks for your sweet comment on my blog. I am most definitely thankful for you. You have been such a wonderful support to me. Hope you had a fantastic holiday with your family. <3

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