Imagine my surprise today when I opened my Google Reader and saw that GIMH had updated their list of the 101 Best Adoption, Loss and Fertility Blogs and saw my blog..this blog..included with a lot of the blogs that I already follow. I'm honored..truly.
I hope that you'll stop by the post and read some of the blogs that are mentioned there...(not just mine, although I'm really glad that you read my blog and hopefully take something meaningful away from my words)...it's crucial that everyone knows where the other members of the Adoption Triad stand.
I'm delurking to say that I'm glad you were on the list :-).
ReplyDeleteWell deserved.
So glad you delurked Lavender! I am looking forward to checking out "Weebles Wobblog" too ;)
ReplyDeleteHi, I found your blog listed in the top 7 blogs for adoptees in About.com. I liked the look of it so I thought I would go ahead and write something. I have never even looked at adoptee blogs before which I think is a little strange since I am a 42 year old American adoptee and am actually in the process of writing a masters thesis entitle "A Journey to the Self" how interpersonal relationships impact the development of self in adoptees. I was one of those adoptees who always said I was fine until I found my birth mother and my whole world fell apart. Now I am writing about adoptees and feel really frustrated by all the empirical research that says that if an adoptee's adoptive parents do not report problems and they are doing well in school then they are "fine". I went to interview adoptees from China and without blinking they were able to tell me that their story started with being left in the street. Something in me wants to scream that these girls are not ok. But I realize that my view point is greatly influenced by my own experience so I am finding it really hard to be objective. Like I said I have never blogged before so please excuse me if this was not the right place for my comments but I am feeling kind of overwhelmed and alone and it was nice to reach out for a minute to someone who might understand.
ReplyDeleteZoey
Zoey,
ReplyDeleteI DO understand...as do countless other adoptees who are making their way out of the "adoption is great and I'm grateful to exist" fog.
You are NOT alone my friend...not be a long shot.
Thanks for the kind words. I have never reached out to another adoptee before. I was adopted by alcoholic parents and never really learned that it was safe.
ReplyDeleteFeeling safe is what I'm really working on in therapy right now. My entire life up until now was spent always looking over my shoulder, waiting for loud and angry words to be hurled my way.
ReplyDeleteSlowly I'm learning to trust again..and I hope you can too.
{{{Hugs}}}
@ Tracy (and other adoptees/natural parents), please stop by http://adultadoptees.org and join the forums...they really are a great source of support and comfort.
ReplyDeletewow. duh. i am there too and had no idea. thanks for posting this. i found this out via you!
ReplyDeleteHahaha..yeah, I was quite shocked to see myself there to be honest..shocked and awed.
ReplyDelete:)
Did you grab your button? You deserve it!
ReplyDeleteWell deserved... (from an adoptive momma who has learned a ton from you and other adult adoptees)
ReplyDeleteJust grabbed my button Pickel! :)
ReplyDeleteI'm truly humbled.