A Funny On A Saturday

OH MY HELL.

TOTALLY off the subject of adoption, you HAVE to go to this website.  Type in any URL and it'll "Redneck Up" your site.  Not permanently, it'll just show you what it would look like.

Redneck Your Own Blog/Site

I've been looking at my blog and am rolling on the floor right now.

Redneck Out of the Fog

You Could Have Been A...

Dumpster Baby.

I think the blog author believes that she's funny.

I find her horrifying.

I looked at her very first post...I wish I hadn't.

"i am baby crazed. i eat, sleep, drink, smoke babies. i am babysitting for friends and spying on my next door neighbor who just had a baby. They didn't have a finished basement in august when we moved in. since august they have finished their basement which is now a nursery and have had a baby. I haven't SEEN this baby, but I hear him waaaaaah waaaaaahing in that newborn way in the alley while I am smoking, they live in the house next door to our apartment building. I want a baby. I pray for a dumpster baby so i won't actually have to have a baby. i am too lazy to go through the whole adoption process and I just want to happen upon a discarded baby so i can take him in."

Oh hell.  She's got a FB page too.

Adoption Blog Hop

Take a look at this Adoption Blog Hop that Sharla has put together.  I just added my link...of course, I'm late as usual.  I really appreciate the fact that this is not a contest, per se.  Instead, it's a chance for the adoptees/original parents/adoptive parents to peruse different blogs without the pressure of clicking the "Vote" button. 

I urge everyone to read as many blogs as you can from each side of the "triad" and mull over the ones that challenge you to think in a different way.  I'm looking forward to this.

Oh, and on a totally off the subject note...I FOUND MY WEDDING DRESS TODAY.

Phew.  That is all.

Bittersweet

‎"Hello,

After serious consideration, we have decided to cancel our Adoption Blogs by Moms – 2012 contest. Our Top 25 program is meant to celebrate, connect, and support mom bloggers. Following some feedback from participants in our 2011 contest, we decided to make this year's Top 25 more inclusive. In doing so, we unknowingly stepped into a very sensitive issue and debate, and we apologize to all the moms who have been offended, no matter what your position on adoption is. We're committed to finding a way to give all parties in the Adoption Triad a voice on Circle of Moms. If we run a Top 25 Adoption Blogs in the future, we'll consult with mom bloggers in each part of the Adoption Triad on how to create a supportive contest where all bloggers would feel welcome and respected by Circle of Moms and by all participants. We appreciate the time and energy every participant put into this contest during the past week, and we sincerely regret that we can't reward those efforts in the way we had planned to when we launched the contest.

We will be closing the contest at 3pm PST today and all blogs will be removed from the contest page.

Sincerely,
The Circle of Moms Team"

 

Do I think that the contest was biased?  Yes. 

 

Do I think that it was really crappy for the Circle of Moms team to send out disqualification notices to some of my friends who were entered in the contest?  You betcha.

 

But as Linda said, they haven't just silenced a few of our friends.  They've silenced ALL of us. 

 

"If we run a Top 25 Adoption Blogs in the future, we'll consult with mom bloggers in each part of the Adoption Triad on how to create a supportive contest where all bloggers would feel welcome and respected by Circle of Moms and by all participants."

 

 

They should have had that with this contest.  And they would have, had they not decided to play favorites and delete the blogs with which they disagreed.

 

My feeling is that there were adoptive mothers who had their blogs on the list who started complaining about the bloggers who aren't cheerleaders for the adoption cause.

 

Well, isn't the point of reading blogs?  To get different perspectives on life and things that are important to you?  I don't agree with some of their blogs either, but that doesn't mean I'd tell the owners of an online contest to disqualify them.

 

 

 

Bah Bah Black Sheep

I've been thinking.  Dangerous, I know.  Megan thanked Melynda for her "sacrifice".  If I could ask her one thing, it would be to ask what her definition of sacrifice really is.  

According to The Free Dictionary, I came upon their meanings for the word.

sacrifice [ˈsækrɪˌfaɪs]

n

1. a surrender of something of value as a means of gaining something more desirable or of preventing some evil

2. a ritual killing of a person or animal with the intention of propitiating or pleasing a deity

3. a symbolic offering of something to a deity

4. the person, animal, or object surrendered, destroyed, killed, or offered

5. a religious ceremony involving one or more sacrifices

6. loss entailed by giving up or selling something at less than its value

vb

1. to make a sacrifice (of); give up, surrender, or destroy (a person, thing, etc.)

Not one of these definitions make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.  In fact, I feel dirty after realizing that I, and the rest of my adult adoptee friends are the sacrificial lambs that were surrendered to please our adoptive parents. 

We were surrendered.  We were destroyed.  We were offered up as atonement for our mothers' sins, perceived or otherwise.  And yet, adoptive parents spin the word "sacrifice" so it sounds like a good thing. 

Yeah, I'm a precious lamb alright. 

Caveat Emptor, Adoptive and Potential Adoptive Parents.  Let the buyers beware.  You never know...someday your Cabbage Patch dolls might just question their adoption and mourn the loss of their original families, heritage and original birth certificates.  And telling them that you thanked their natural mothers for their sacrifice will probably not be received with the most grateful of ears.