tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.comments2023-11-29T03:18:47.885-05:00Out of the FogCrickethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16968579258082745674noreply@blogger.comBlogger1348125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-7060282460357292832013-10-14T13:18:28.739-04:002013-10-14T13:18:28.739-04:00Wow. That is so ridiculously offensive, I don'...Wow. That is so ridiculously offensive, I don't even know what to say. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-32465959906523546612013-07-16T09:46:36.611-04:002013-07-16T09:46:36.611-04:00You make me cry in the most wonderful way.You make me cry in the most wonderful way.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16430211503686641416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-9762460095329418742013-07-12T14:37:33.945-04:002013-07-12T14:37:33.945-04:00Wishing you a belated Happy Found Day! :-)Wishing you a belated Happy Found Day! :-)Rebecca Hawkeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10736626549316682171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-4978569214510897382013-06-21T08:05:30.322-04:002013-06-21T08:05:30.322-04:00Hey girl! You can do it! How have you been doing?Hey girl! You can do it! How have you been doing?Jameshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07661007831791295460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-3922026796771231672013-06-17T05:54:31.538-04:002013-06-17T05:54:31.538-04:00you forgot Dear Heart. :-) just kidding.you forgot Dear Heart. :-) just kidding.Mike & Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762861094747764197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-8030613660183589062013-06-17T05:53:06.285-04:002013-06-17T05:53:06.285-04:00Wow, I am new to your story, an adult adoptee that...Wow, I am new to your story, an adult adoptee that never had the fortune of making contact with either parent...my mother is dead and I don't know who my father is. You ARE very fortunate to have reunited with your mother, and you have a loving relationship. As for your father....you don't get to pick them. You have a very healthy attitude of outwardly showing anger towards someone who has let you down for your whole life. Just try really hard not to expend the negative energy on him. Even his wife is feeling much the same as you are, disappointed. Unfortunately, she doesn't have the self esteem you do to get pissed off about not being loved and respected as she should be. Bravo to you and your birth mother. If my mother were alive, I could only hope to have the reconnection that you have. Mike & Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762861094747764197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-84246043370401719212013-05-02T20:14:58.267-04:002013-05-02T20:14:58.267-04:00Yes, you can do this!Yes, you can do this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16430211503686641416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-62247277200747250592013-04-22T16:56:15.580-04:002013-04-22T16:56:15.580-04:00You can do it! I have been doing a 50 day challen...You can do it! I have been doing a 50 day challenge with 50 wall pushups and 50 situps, and 15 minutes of cardio and a 2 minute plank. I had to give up on the plank as it hurts my back but I have pretty much kept up with the rest of it.Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02333788218398458127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-72942421806598867332013-04-12T11:43:28.531-04:002013-04-12T11:43:28.531-04:00Mavis, the great defender of P. Her comments are a...Mavis, the great defender of P. Her comments are all over the map, P pays her no attention whatsoever yet she lives a full and happy life? What a healthy relationship that must be. I'm sure the 'light and love' she sends will keep you warm and cozy at night, pfff.<br /><br />Good luck with Mavis and P, they sound delightful. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18188032740724872155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-70672733102978441872013-04-11T19:47:41.208-04:002013-04-11T19:47:41.208-04:00((((Christina)))) I am sorry. And yeah, treats yo...((((Christina)))) I am sorry. And yeah, treats you kindly... um, say what now? People are supposed to treat everyone with kindness - as for a man's wife well I would hope there was a more deep and meaninful relationship than being treated kindly.<br /><br />And as for a man's daughter - well he needs to be doing a hell of a lot more than having love for you - WTF - actions are important - anyone can say they have love for someone. <br /><br />I am so sorry. He just doesn't get how much he is missing out on.<br /><br />xxxMysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-10337588352846459422013-04-11T16:27:35.709-04:002013-04-11T16:27:35.709-04:00Thanks Lee. The "he treats me kindly" g...Thanks Lee. The "he treats me kindly" got me...you treat a dog kindly, not your wife.<br /><br />Sigh. Moving on to bigger and better things. Crickethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16968579258082745674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-36259715296178192772013-04-11T16:24:09.153-04:002013-04-11T16:24:09.153-04:00Sure sounds to me like his wife has settled for a ...Sure sounds to me like his wife has settled for a very unfulfilling relationship. i am sorry he is ditching you a second time--or maybe it is more like "still". Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02333788218398458127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-64511071291536430762013-04-05T23:57:07.207-04:002013-04-05T23:57:07.207-04:00I thought this blog was about adoption, not religi...I thought this blog was about adoption, not religion and abortion. Why does an adopted child have to thank anyone? Sorry you felt the need to tame down your approach Christina, I wouldn't have. I think I have found a new place to hang for a bit, and enjoy the 'banter'. Thanks for sharing YOUR thoughts Christina, I appreciate where you are coming from.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18188032740724872155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-11430394417135400022013-04-05T23:46:11.747-04:002013-04-05T23:46:11.747-04:00Feeling all adopted and shit, love it, can totally...Feeling all adopted and shit, love it, can totally relate to that. He might be scared but be real, not too needy and see where it goes. Advice I could have used not too long ago when I scared the crap out of my natural half sister, she ran for the hills and hasn't looked back. Don't drink and stalk your natural family lolAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18188032740724872155noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-10968157077482325342013-03-29T10:35:49.012-04:002013-03-29T10:35:49.012-04:00I can tell this is going to be a great project.I can tell this is going to be a great project.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16430211503686641416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-9206739463035385362013-03-29T10:35:16.225-04:002013-03-29T10:35:16.225-04:00I'll follow your journey wherever you lead.I'll follow your journey wherever you lead.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16430211503686641416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-31561716753804545042013-03-07T13:56:40.822-05:002013-03-07T13:56:40.822-05:00Yay, Christina, for his positive response! "I...Yay, Christina, for his positive response! "I'm feeling all adopted and shit..." I often feel "all adoptive parent and shit." My kid sassed me. Is it normal kid crap or is she expressing some deep adoption wound? She is distraught at the thought of donating, handing-down, or throwing away (almost) anything. Is she just super-sentimental or is it related to subconscious abandonment fears? Sending you positive thoughts and prayers, Christine. And also reflecting on how strong you've shown yourself to be. You've been to hell and back more than once, and you stay standing. Wishing you well with this latest!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16430211503686641416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-78894380332690509222013-03-02T12:33:29.908-05:002013-03-02T12:33:29.908-05:00Take the lead, and hoping all works well. Would i...Take the lead, and hoping all works well. Would it be a horrible imposition to ask you to email me some time? leenkirsty1978@yahoo.com<br />I am trying to help my 8 y/o with search for his first mother and I really need to talk to someone who has walked this road. Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02333788218398458127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-82213455830814668782013-03-01T20:24:38.913-05:002013-03-01T20:24:38.913-05:00Oh Christina! I am so happy you have had contact!...Oh Christina! I am so happy you have had contact!!<br /><br />It must be really hard to know where to go from here but I am hoping he responds and contact progresses. Sending much love!!<br /><br />xxxMysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-65718484041770623702013-03-01T15:59:04.321-05:002013-03-01T15:59:04.321-05:00Wow. Well, it's a good sign he's friendly ...Wow. Well, it's a good sign he's friendly but, yeah, what to say? <br />Keeping you in my thoughts this weekend!jimmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00565535741290255282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-6988519601888463012013-03-01T09:07:27.413-05:002013-03-01T09:07:27.413-05:00Yay! So awesome that you got a response from your ...Yay! So awesome that you got a response from your brother! I bet he's waiting for you to take the lead in the conversation. I truly hope everything goes well from this point forward. Sending positive energy your way...Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17023810478031567139noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-62171104090207980902013-02-14T06:38:19.156-05:002013-02-14T06:38:19.156-05:00(((Christina)))
This is your blog, your place. ...(((Christina))) <br /><br />This is your blog, your place. I wish people would remember that. Love you no matter what. Mysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-6481883054742699402013-02-12T15:59:57.395-05:002013-02-12T15:59:57.395-05:00Christina,
First off, thank you for post. It has ...Christina,<br /><br />First off, thank you for post. It has a gracious tone that I appreciate very much. I probably haven't done a very good job of expressing myself in the comments, and I may not do such a good job this time either, but I'll take another shot at explaining what I meant.<br /><br />I don't think you need to change who you are, but many people, myself included, change the way we talk/write depending on who we are talking to. If I know I am going to talk to someone that disagrees with me on a sensitive issue, especially one as likely to progress into anger as this one, I choose my words with extra care. My goal is to exchange thoughts; to help another see my point of view and to see theirs better as well. If the essence of my thoughts offend them then so be it, but if my choice of words unnecessarily offend them then I have lost a chance to have a real exchange because they probably won't hear anything else I have to say.<br /><br />Now, having said that, I think that the internet seems to make it extremely difficult to have fruitful conversations on sensitive subjects with those you disagree with. In person, you have a whole array of body language that helps another person interpret your meaning, and where a person takes offense at a choice of words you have the opportunity to say "Well, hold on, that's not really what I meant. Here is what I meant to say...". In comment threads people interpret with no additional cues, take offense, work themselves up into a fever pitch, and then unload on each other.<br /><br />I don't want to suggest that you shouldn't express yourself honestly on your blog, or that you shouldn't comment on other people's blogs. It seems from what I have seen that adoptees commenting on adoptive parents' blogs and vice versa is pretty common. It also seems like those conversation often don't go very well. <br /><br />My main point in my second comment was to evaluate why you (the you here applies to all commenters not just you specifically) are doing the commenting. Is it to talk with the blogger, to help them see your point of view? Do you hope that others reading their blog will see another point of view? All of the above? If so then I think that when you go on an adoptive parents' blog that they are not disposed to hear you. In fact I expect that they are far more likely to feel threatened by a view that would seem to attack views that are one of the center points of their life. In those cases you may have to bend over backwards, especially on the internet, to have a reasonable and thoughtful conversation. If you want to familiarize others reading their blog with your ideas then you probably don't want an angry back and forth as their first exposure to those ideas.<br /><br />I'm not trying to preach to you. I'm not trying to change everyone's mind, especially on a subject I am mostly ignorant about. I'm definitely not telling you to be false. I just don't look at trying really hard to watch my words as being false or untrue to myself. When I go talk to my wife about a sensitive subject you better believe I tread lightly because I love her. I want at the end of that conversation for both of us to be better off and closer to one another than before we started.<br /><br />Maybe that seems like a weird analogy because its pretty hard to love someone that represents something that you think is wrong. I feel that as a follower of Christ that is precisely what I am called to do; to love and communicate to the fullest extent possible with someone, especially those farthest from me. I always pray that the Holy Spirit helps me to do that, and I often I get in the way and mess things up. Then I get up and try to do better next time.<br /><br />Anyway, I hope I explained myself better to you and anyone else reading.<br /><br />With love,<br />Chris.<br />Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14583126229291598390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-74901853561090559922013-02-12T05:40:56.291-05:002013-02-12T05:40:56.291-05:00Lol Colleen, I wrote barely two lines to you and y...Lol Colleen, I wrote barely two lines to you and you are calling me swine? Wow. Just wow. You are nothing like Martin Luther King, please don't insult him.<br /><br />You are so blinded by your judgements you cannot see what you are saying. I was raped and still didn't abort and yet you are going out of your tree. Please, get some help ASAP because you need it. You are the type of person that makes Christianity and God look so unappealing to people because you make it look insane. As I said, more churchian than Christian because had you been like Christ, you would have approached this very differently and not at all the way you have. Mysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-80768794546840365902013-02-11T20:53:16.198-05:002013-02-11T20:53:16.198-05:00Myst you and Kit are the judgemental ones lumping ...Myst you and Kit are the judgemental ones lumping me with "churchians". This kind of internet asshattery is what keeps me in shape. No problem getting my next 5K in now. Abortion is and always has been intrinsic evil. It is evil in the case of rape too. Nothing changes that it is violence. Nothing makes rape better even if the man hasn't had action in years. It is still violent and evil. Same with abortion. God was pretty clear in the Commandment - Thou Shalt not Murder that innocent life was not to be destroyed. He was pretty clear with what he thought about the offering of children (live child sacrifices) while drums were played to drown out their screams in the Book of Jeremiah. He just let the nation of Israel be diminished by famine, disease, and the sword of the the Chaldeans. Cruel to offer help to a mother considering abortion? How about cruel to not offer her help, to instead encourage her and offer no help to the infant within her, to just leave it to be destroyed violently, without anesthetic, while its screams are drowned out by the sound of the vacuum sucking its limbs apart, and its scream unheard when the abortionist crushes the skull that otherwise cannot be vacated by the vacuum. Oh, this is unreal. <br /><br />Done here. GO ahead and slam me as much as you want now. That whole pigs before swine....not that I believe you are swine. Especially Christina/Elena. I read your post on the love you had overwhelm you with the birth of your children. That is something I can definitely relate too and is one of the reasons my gratitude and love for God would never let any dissenting opinion silence my prayers, words, or actions in defense of the unborn. People like me are along the same lines as Fredrick Douglas, and Martin Luther King. We will not be silenced by dissenting, illogical, wrong opinions justifying intrinsic evil as being between a woman and her doctor. Man you all should really wake up. Agent Orange is happening now. What do you think happens to the fetal remains? They aren't incinerated like in Cider House Rules. They are used by companies to try out "taste enhancers", they are used for research and development by various companies, including a certain Korean pharmaceutical that manufacturers youth/energy vitamins from fetal remains. It is so sick and unbelievable that this is called "reproductive rights", or "choice". It is evil, just as rape is evil just as murder is evil...oh yeah it is murder.CWriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06654242399318374459noreply@blogger.com