Sunday, October 21, 2012

Speaking of Bullies

Heeeeeeee's baaaaaack.  On my last post (yes, yes, I know it's been three weeks since my last post..haha..sorry), I was continuing my story of seventh grade.

Apparently, POWERDAD took issue with the fact that I was sharing my experiences as a bullying survivor.  Because, you know, he knows everything.  ::insert big ass eye roll::

POWERDAD said...
How could you dare to compare this with the bullying that kids go through today? Were you physically attacked? did your family feel threatened by gangs? were your sexually assualted?

Pick up a newspaper and read the horrific stories kids are really going through instead of trying to equate everything into being about or against you. It's sad and just a tad bit Pathetisad a word?

Let's break this down for you in simple sentences that even YOU, POWERDAD, can understand, shall we?
I went to for the below information.  Pretty cut and dry if you ask me.  I will write YES next to each line for what I went through in junior and senior high school.  Let me know if I'm going too fast POWERDAD.
Types of Bullying There are three types of bullying:
  • Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:
    • Teasing YES
    • Name-calling YES
    • Inappropriate sexual comments YES
    • Taunting YES
    • Threatening to cause harm YES
  • Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:
    • Leaving someone out on purpose YES
    • Telling other children not to be friends with someone YES
    • Spreading rumors about someone YES
    • Embarrassing someone in public YES
  • Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:
    • Hitting/kicking/pinching YES
    • Spitting YES
    • Tripping/pushing YES
    • Taking or breaking someone’s things YES
    • Making mean or rude hand gestures YES

Not sure why what I went through wasn't considered bullying by Mr. Wonderful, but

Moving on...these are the signs that a child may be being bullied:

Signs a Child is Being Bullied Look for changes in the child. However, be aware that not all children who are bullied exhibit warning signs.
Some signs that may point to a bullying problem are:
  • Unexplainable injuries YES
  • Lost or destroyed clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry YES
  • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness YES
  • Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating. Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch. YES
  • Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares YES
  • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school YES
  • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations YES
  • Feelings of helplessness or decreased self esteem YES
  • Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, or talking about suicide YES
So, even though I exhibited ALL the behaviors of a bullied child, that STILL isn't enough?  I needed to be put in the hospital, or have my family threatened by gangs?  And no, I wasn't sexually assaulted by anyone at school...that was left to my adoptive father to take care of.

No shit POWERDAD, you're a real ass.


  1. I love you, he's an ass of the first order and I was bullied too!

  2. Powerdad is a complete PowerASS. I feel sorry for anyone who deals with this guy on a daily basis. If he is this rude to strangers on the internet, how does he treat those in his real life? Oh wait. I don't think he HAS a life if he has to troll the internet and bully people there.

  3. Lol, given Wes is an ace at BEING a first grade bully himself his comments are hypocritical in the extreme. If anyone wants to find pathetic, he would only have to look in the mirror to see it looking back at him.

    Luv you xxx

  4. Apparently he is seeking attention which is so incredibly sad that a grown man would find himself so needy.

    You do know the saying - don't feed the trolls or increase traffic to his site...because that is his one of his goals and if baiting works he will keep it up.

    I was enjoying your ability to capture my attention and take me into what you felt - don't let him stop you.

  5. PowerDad is a joke who is not worth our time nor does he deserve a voice on our blogsz. My suggestion . . . delete, delete, delete!

    You are much too good for him or for his disgusting insults!

  6. Christina,

    I just wanted to say also, I am so very sorry you had to endure this. Bullying is one of our biggest issues these days and it doesn't seem to cease when we become adults.

    Good on you for speaking up and sharing your story. Wes will dismiss everyone's stories because he enjoys and relishes attacking people in order to hurt them... however no matter what he says or how he says it, his pathetic-ness can and will never change the facts of what happened to you.

    Keep writing and sharing xxx

  7. The level of victimhood in this conversation is of an amazing degree. Here are other things that you should try to make about you. 9/11, the recent economic downturn, the storm that ripped through New Jersey. 9/11 may be a tough one for you but I have NO doubt that your self-entitled bowl gazing can make anything that has ever happened, be about (and ultimately) against you.

  8. So, talking about my life on MY blog is offensive to you? I am well aware that not everything is about me..but my life IS about me and I will continue to speak my truths. You don't have to agree with me. That's your right. My right is to call you out on being a pompous douchenozzle.

  9. Power dad IS a bully. I use to laugh at the mean kids in high school. I laugh at Powerdad now. Hahaha!

  10. The level of victimhood in this conversation is of an amazing degree. Here are other things that you should try to make about you. 9/11, the recent economic downturn, the storm that ripped through New Jersey. 9/11 may be a tough one for you but I have NO doubt that your self-entitled bowl gazing can make anything that has ever happened, be about (and ultimately) against you."

    Really? You sir are a bully, and you like to try intimidating those you perceive as having less power than you do, and those whom you think can not defend themselves. I feel hugely sorry for your adoptlings. Your entitlement mentality along with the scorn you heap upon those of us who dare go against what you think and believe in is truly monumental. Does your ego crush your poor little brain at night when you try to sleep? Frankly, you can think and believe what you want. Those of us who have lived the adoption nightmare and through the bullying nightmare should stop wasting our time on you. I have learned that it is absolutely true that you can not open a closed mind. Go troll somewhere else where perhaps your views will be appreciated. Try Birthmom Buds! They are of the happy dappy kool aid drinking variety. When and if you ever wake up, come on back and we will explain again why the adopters attitude of entitlement leads to women losing their children. Until then please to grow the frak up, you big bully!

    There fixed my mistakes- jeesh, not enough sleep and too little coffee!

  11. LOL, wittle wes just has to continue being his usal bullying self. Victimhood?? Yeah, perhaps if he had ever experience real trauma instead of dishing out his mean spiritedness he would understand what is going on but no, he cannot see beyond the end of his nose. Typical for a bully.

  12. Christina,
    I understand. You have been speaking into the void for so long and ….nothing. Sure, the sycophants are there, but your intelligence has always denoted you from the rest and this is no different. While they are always good for the ego boost their willingness to lick the boot makes them an easy sell and unfulfilling.
    Then one day, someone does listen. It’s a voice that doesn’t buy the victimhood, false arguments and self-inflicted alienation. It is so easy to cry wolf and demonize…and the lemmings are all too willing to spur you on…it’s pathetic, you feel that inside, but the echo chamber is just too loud now, too big…
    What your unable admit is that your contempt for the “adoption industry” isn’t actually based in the facts but rather on your feelings. You Christina didn’t get the best experience and thus…the entire operation is invalid and must be destroyed. This is cheap, immature thinking and better suited to Myst and the lesser thans of the adoption argument.
    Here’s a challenge. Instead of attempting to bloviate about how bad the entire adoption process is, begin narrowing your focus on the items that you actually want change in. Private adoption seems to be “bad” in your world, go with that. This would be much more constructive than aligning yourself to the “bio-mom” crowd of losers who want to stop any and all adoption simply because they’re major F-ups and someone called them on it. Use your intellect to separate yourself from the crap or stop complaining about the smell.



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