tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post4732590325694458723..comments2023-11-29T03:18:47.885-05:00Comments on Out of the Fog: Somebody Slap Me...HardCrickethttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16968579258082745674noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-5363499295029959542010-02-07T10:19:14.721-05:002010-02-07T10:19:14.721-05:00IMO, the adoptees who adopt are the scariest.
I ha...IMO, the adoptees who adopt are the scariest.<br />I have an old HS friend who is and adopted adpter, her status updates are all about praying for people's adoptions to go through.<br />For someone so happy, she seems more obsessed about adoption than the average Joe.More protective of it to. To the point where she seems rabid.<br />I love my fellow adoptees but the foggy ones are a little scary.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-54499871827971708542010-01-24T22:45:30.803-05:002010-01-24T22:45:30.803-05:00Hey EK, I am sorry she is being such a knob. Lik...Hey EK, I am sorry she is being such a knob. Like Lori says, she is a hit and run. She can dish out the crap but cannot take anyone pulling her up on it. <br /><br />Not only that she used to work in an agency so she is part of the vile system who takes children from their mothers. <br /><br />It is sad when people want to remain blind but you can only do what you can to help them, after that, its up to them.<br /><br />((((Hugs)))Mysthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07425550479815459790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-69293275524099448422010-01-23T15:24:31.930-05:002010-01-23T15:24:31.930-05:00I had to laugh when I read she went private. It re...I had to laugh when I read she went private. It reminds of a hit and run. They just can't stick around to see what happens.Lori Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16941584141149840911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-23208102922868966932010-01-22T20:00:00.336-05:002010-01-22T20:00:00.336-05:00Lora, I think adoptees who do that are doing so (c...Lora, I think adoptees who do that are doing so (consciously or subconsciously) because it makes them the "good" adoptee, as Betty Jean Lifton puts it. If they praise adoption they get praised. I disagree but I can't blame them, considering that adoptees who don't toe that line get vilified.Triona Guidryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00969598333210972017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-41130195227274801712010-01-22T10:01:16.689-05:002010-01-22T10:01:16.689-05:00I have seen a couple of times where adoptees who c...I have seen a couple of times where adoptees who claim to have had no problems with their own adoption make the strongest advocates for adoption.<br /><br /> And of course they get lots of praise and kudos from other Aparents who hold them up as the perfect adoptee and the perfect AP.<br /><br />I imagine it takes alot of effort to hold that wall up and not allow a stray negative thought to enter.Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03304963190823820769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7368059624632256365.post-87760460163376956122010-01-22T08:29:14.158-05:002010-01-22T08:29:14.158-05:00Truly if someone put their blog private because of...Truly if someone put their blog private because of what you said, that is just plain stick your head in the sand silly. I try with every fiber of my being to give my kids the best home life possible. Frankly in my biological family I was very unhappy much of the time growing up and i have always wanted to make sure that my kids didn't have done to them what was done to me. (which was not the type of abuse you endured but was emotionally painful) <br /><br />adoption is always about loss. I remember vividly the day my eldest really "got" that I could never tell him anything about his first family because his paperwork from another country all lists abandoned. There are no names, no addresses of anything but several orphanages that he spent time in. I hated that conversation. However gently couched, the story had loss all through it. My second son has at least been able to maintain contact with first family members and siblings. My 2 youngest are way little still and haven't talked about anything other than adoption generally and their own coming home stories. At this point it is still exciting and "good" to them. But I know that this will change. it won't change our love for each other but their little hearts will hold hurts I can't heal and I hate that.Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02333788218398458127noreply@blogger.com